Especially when helping them grow older is literally our job.
by Claire Zulkey
I saw a post in my Facebook feed not long ago featuring a mother asking for ideas as she put together a bakery-themed “Donut grow up” party for her daughter. It was the child’s first birthday. I thought—oh. Baby’s first guilt trip.
I personally can’t imagine wanting a child to remain 1. I think it’s the hardest age, combining physicality with lack of rationality. But aside from that, I don’t identify with the parental notion that children must be frozen in time, and anything less is a tragedy. Life has gotten easier as my boys get older. To shed the paraphernalia of babyhood, to gain back time and energy as my kids get old enough to pitch in, to lower my guard more in public places— it feels like an achievement.
Yet there are classic tales, new and old, wherein a child leaving the nursery is seen as a tragedy: Peter Pan, TheVelveteen Rabbit, Toy Story, Inside Out, The Polar Express. The moral of these stories, to quote The Breakfast Club, is that when you grow old, your heart dies.
This year, the Halloween plan is four all four of us to do...something. Involving trick-or-treating. (I know; I've given it a lot of thought.) Our son will be Wolverine, and our daughter will be Lydia Deetz, and I will maybe be a gumball machine (more on that later) but will probably be a cat.
Before we get to the roundup of all the things you need to get yourself into the spirit of the season, let's do a little retrospective of Halloweens from Years Past.
Tarot Contributor Jessica Jernigan talks daily rituals...and why Death can be our friend.
Drawing a single card each day can be an enormously helpful morning ritual. This practice invites you to slow down for a few minutes and check in with yourself before you embark on the day ahead.
That, all by itself, is powerful.
You might discover that the card you pull in the morning provides a set of metaphors that give symbolic shape to your day. And if you’re interested in developing a deep relationship with Tarot, this is a wonderful way to get acquainted with the cards.
While you’re getting to know a card a day, I’ll be introducing you to a card each month - but it's important to keep in mind that the interpretations I offer aren’t intended to be definitive. I’m sharing what I know about Tarot in the hope that you will want to get to know Tarot yourself. And, in any case, my own relationship with Tarot is ever-evolving; if I didn’t keep learning about the cards each time I draw them I would have gotten bored with Tarot by now. The analyses I’ll be offering are simply distillations of what I know about each card right now, along with some questions you might ask yourself when faced with that card yourself.
Sabine & The Red Lotus just released their new single, "Infinite Orb," and it is stunning. I'd like to see it be the theme song of the next Bond movie, please. (If the spectacular creature in these photos looks familiar, that's because it's Francesca.)
Listen below, or stream the single on Apple Music and Spotify.
There's still a few days left to enter to win the print of your choice from Thirty9, which offers a selection of fine art photography that you can browse by theme, color, room, and so on. (I'm obsessed with the agave plant print pictured above.)
Speaking of plants: You may have noticed that I changed my palms. RG's home page header now features a piece by Ariane Moshayedi (all her work is gorgeous; you should check it out).
What's better than wine? Wine...with poetry. Verse & Vine's wines are sourced in Paso Robles and Monterey, and come complete with ambience right there on the bottle.