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Live In This

| Carmel, California |

You know how there are certain things in your closet that you really love, but just never wear for whatever reason? For me, it was always hats: I would find one, and love it, and buy it, and then never wear it because every time I put it on I felt like I was wearing a big sign saying HELLO I AM THAT GIRL WEARING THE HAT.

And then one day I realized: I totally don’t care if I’m that girl wearing the hat.

I love being that girl wearing the hat.

And so now I wear hats. But there are still a few pieces in my wardrobe that are in the loved-but-unworn category: a wayyyy over-the-top fringed jacket that I put on and immediately feel self-conscious in because holy fringe; a pale-pink blouse that’s beautiful but that makes me look a bit ghostly unless I wear far more makeup than I enjoy wearing on the average day; a white silk skirt that terrifies me, because oh my goodness that is a lot of white silk. And when I see white silk, what I see is tiny, strawberry Pop Tart-covered fingers.

So I’ve had this skirt for a good…what, like two and a half years now? I wore it as part of an Ann Taylor campaign way back when, and I remember being super excited about it when it arrived and thinking I’d wear it constantly with everything, because it was just so beautiful and floaty and elegant and perfectly cut. And every so often I’d take it out of my closet, put it on, and then panic at all that whiteness and silkiness, and take it right back off again and put on something else. Like jeans that don’t show every tiny little strawberry fingerprint.

And then, this weekend, we took a day trip to Carmel – a little town about an hour and a half south of San Francisco that’s all adorable restaurants and adorable shops and adorable flower-lined streets populated by adorable dogs and adorable children with adorable ice cream cones, and it felt like the perfect day to break out my white silk skirt. And I fretted for a minute about whether the day’s activities would result in a stain or a scuff or what have you…and then I realized: the only way I can be absolutely certain that I won’t mess it up is if I never wear it. And what that means is that it’ll never get worn.

So I decided to put the thing on and then forget it about it entirely and go about my damn day…and that’s exactly what I did. Sat on street corners playing with sharks in it. Jumped off of stairs in it. Rolled around on beaches in it. Lived in it.

Because in my world, that’s what clothing is for: living in. And no matter how pretty a piece might be, if I can’t live in it it’s of no use to me.

I think if you love it, you wear it, and then you watch it take on a life of its own.

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On Me: Ann Taylor Skirt (similar); H&M Tank (similar); Birkenstock Sandals; Tom Ford Sunglasses; Clutch c/o Ora Delphine; Alexander McQueen Double-Finger Ring.

  • Totally off topic, but…which Maclaren do you have and do you like it? I’m on the hunt for an umbrella stroller for travel and the options are overwhelming!

    • jordanreid

      it’s the quest, and i really do. i’ve had other (fancier) strollers over the years, and this is the one i keep coming back to for day-to-day use because it’s just so easy and lightweight (but still feels sturdy; we’ve had ours for going on four years now). i chose it because when we had our son i was freaking out about having to carry the stroller up and down four flights of stairs, and this one was the lightest one i could find (i think 18 lbs?).

      • Thank you! I was actually eyeing a quest but was worried it was too bulky, so thanks for putting my mind to rest!

  • Such happy pictures! And you SHOULD live in this skirt. It’s fabulous.

    Wishes & Reality

  • I love that last picture.

  • SugarMagnolia15

    Do you guys live in San Jose or San Francisco? I could’ve sworn you said San Jose, but you seem to mention San Francisco as your home base quite often, and they aren’t the same place. At all. BTW- San Jose is a really cool place to live, even though it may not have the “street cred” that SF does.

    • jordanreid

      we live in san jose, and yes, it’s a lovely place. i’ve gotten this comment a couple of times, from the ‘jordan is desperate to live in san francisco’ trope that arose last summer because i was unfamiliar with the area and wasn’t sure what to call the south bay, and it’s ridiculous. i couldn’t possibly care less about where i live having ‘street cred’ – i care about schools, and quality of life, and warm weather. i tend to reference san francisco when i’m talking to people who aren’t familiar with the area – e.g. ‘we live about an hour south of san francisco’ or ‘we live in the bay area’ because not everyone from other parts of the country knows san jose. same way i said ‘we live just outside of new york city’ when we lived in tarrytown, and then if they said ‘oh, i know the area – where do you live?’ i clarified. in this post, i figured saying that carmel was an hour and a half south of a major city would be more useful information to readers than ‘carmel is 45 minutes south of the town where i live, which you may or may not be familiar with.’

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