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A Resource For New Mamas

I’ve written before about the intense emotional tailspin I went through in the weeks following the birth of our son and my need to reach out for help. Here’s a segment from the post (read the whole thing here):

On the night we came home, I was crushed – absolutely crushed into pieces – by my love for my son, and my terror at all the ways in which the world could hurt him. I couldn’t stop crying, and simply didn’t know what to do with all the pain that I felt – both physical and emotional. It wasn’t rational – I knew that – but it was a misery so overwhelming that I turned to Kendrick and told him that I needed help.

I don’t know that I’ve ever said those words so plainly in my life, or meant them so much.

I ended up turning to medication until the storm passed (about two weeks) because…well, it worked for me, immediately and completely, and because it felt like the most expedient way to give me the emotional and physical strength I needed to care for our newborn. But medication is not for everyone, and for those looking for a different kind of support, there are options.

Reader Marianna wrote in to tell me about a business that she started with the goal of providing emotional support to mothers during the post-partum period without the additional demand of asking them to leave their homes. Services include Preemie Support, Single Crisis Visit, access to psychiatrists, Lactation Consultation, and a comprehensive Post-Natal Package, and this honestly sounds like exactly the kind of organization that I would have reached out to had I known it existed. In any case, it’s nice to know that this kind of support is out there, if you need it.

Learn more about Parenthood Psychology Practice here.

  • Anglea Juarez

    I had my first child a couple of months after you and experienced something very similar. There was nothing in the world that could’ve prepared me for, or prevented, the complete emotional pitfall I experienced after we came home with our son.
    I cried. And cried. And screamed. And threw things at my husband. I was a mess; a sad, lost, exhausted, wreck and there was absolutely no controlling it. It was almost like an out of body experience because I had no idea who this person was living inside of me. It felt impossible to love and care for my son the way he needed and the way I truly wanted to. (Adding major breastfeeding problems to the mix did not help matters either.)
    Luckily, there is a group near me called PEP (Postpartum Education for Parents). They meet weekly and have a 24 hour hotline with volunteers to answer questions and provide support.  It. Saved. Me.
    Realizing that I wasn’t the only person out there going through it was so comforting – and also the reassurance that it would pass and things WOULD get easier. 
    I really commend you for sharing your experience. Not every town has a PEP or Parenthood Psychological Practice so your story may be just the thing another new mom needs to help her get through a tough time.

  • Dr. Marianna Strongin

    Jordan,
    Thank you so much for this post. I hope that this will be a good resource for women at all stages of parenthood. I really believe that people don’t emotionally prepare themselves enough before starting a family and I hope to support them throughout the various life changes.